It’s happened to us all; we’re getting ready for a first date (and lord have we been on plenty of those) and suddenly, we get butterflies. We’re nervous. In fact, we feel like a kid again. Why are we nervous? We have dates down to a science, a math, or any of the other classes we barely passed in college. It’s unexplainable…at first. If you’re in a happy, committed relationship now, you probably realize that you felt nervous before your first date. ‘You realize that you felt as excited and clueless as you did during your first date when you were 13 years old. That’s how its supposed to be; the right partner makes you feel like a kid again. And that’s because being a kid was awesome. You didn’t know anything about insecurities or fears or inhibitions yet. If you can get back to that place with somebody, hold onto him.
You don’t worry about what you eat
When you were a kid, you didn’t think about calories or fat content; you just knew when you were hungry, when you were full, and which foods made you really, really happy. When you’re with the right person, your feeling about food can become about that basic again because your body issues start to dissolve, and your need to be perfect seems silly—you’re perfect to your partner!
You wear whatever you want
Aaaaw! Remember the days you’d wear sparkly pink leggings and a sweater with a duck bill on top? Well, maybe you don’t dress quite like that anymore. But when you’re with the right man, you feel free to let your quirky style shine through.
You lose your filter
You probably got into a lot of trouble as a kid for not watching what you said to strangers. You don’t exactly tell the pharmacist that his haircut is weird today, but you do feel free to say whatever is on your mind to your partner—he doesn’t judge you.
You laugh at inappropriate times
Your partner can make you giggle at a funeral. You’re not exactly proud of this, but…well it lets you know that he’s the one.
You were a cuddly kid. Admit it! When you were near a person you loved, you immediately snuggled up to them as close as possible. When you’re with the right partner, you can’t help but do the same thing every time you’re together.
You dream big
The perfect person for you makes you once again believe that you could be a firefighter or ballerina…or whatever your dream job is today as an adult. I realize it’s probably not a firefighter or ballerina, but maybe?
You don’t worry about tomorrow
Tomorrow wasn’t even a concept that entered your cute little child brain. You were always so in the moment. That’s how it is when you’re with the right person—you want to soak up every second of every day with him. You don’t waste time on thoughts of tomorrow.
Staying in bed all day is the best
As a kid, you didn’t think of the “better” or “more in” places you could be. Getting to stay in bed all day on a Saturday was the best. That’s how it is when you find your right fit in a partner, too. All the other “cool” places you could be just fade away.
Plus, you sleep incredibly
Oh yeah, you’re sleeping really well too. That’s just what happens when you find your match; your body finds this incredible calm.
You’re curious about new places
You used to want to see the world! Recently, perhaps you’ve become more neurotic and picky and you mostly only like places you’ve already vetted. But with the right person, your curiosity about new places, cultures and experiences comes back.
You’re curious about new people
It’s so adorable the way that children walk up to each other on the playground and just start chatting. They have no fears of, “What if this person is weird?” or “What if this person thinks I’m weird?” You can get that back in the right relationship—your faith in humans comes back.
You’re not afraid to fall
It didn’t occur to you as a kid that you couldn’t climb that tree, sneak into that candy pantry, or play with the big kids. If you wanted to do something, you went for it. Fear can sink in as an adult, and the “What ifs” stop us from going for it. But the right partner can kill those fears.
You feel artistic
Expressing yourself artistically is so therapuetic—that’s a part of the reason you loved fingerpaiting whenever you could as a kid! As a grownup, you might start to feel like, “If I’m not a working aritst what’s the point?” but your partner can bring back the artist in you.
You wake up excited
Remember as a kid you’d wake up ecstatic to see what the day would bring? As you get older, you need coffee, mantras, and looking forward to happy hour. But you get excited about waking up again when you’re in love.
You’re not afraid to picture your happy ending
And, naturally, when you’re with a good partner you let your imagination run a little wild again thinking about fairytale endings…like you used to do as a kid.