On Friday’s (Jan. 8) episode of The Real, the outspoken co-hosts discussed a new meme that’s surfaced on social media dubbed the “new” male 90-day rule.
Apparently, the rule is that a man has to wait 90 days before spending money on you, similar to the “how many months do you wait until giving it up” question that many women ponder while testing the waters of a new relationship. Interesting, right? However, we’re not too sure just how “new” this rule is, as it’s been joked about before. But all jokes aside, the ladies of The Real, of course, kept it real about the “new male 90-day rule” during that episode’s session of Girl Chat.
With varying perspectives, Loni Love sounded off saying that women nor men shouldn’t hold the rule to high standards and just go dutch on dates; while Jeannie Mai and Tamera Mowry shared their experience with holding off on sex until marriage. Adrienne Bailon wasn’t too interested in the rule, saying that going dutch on every date like your bro’s isn’t the move. Guest host Bevy Smith offered her opinion on the rule as well, saying men should employ the rule of speaking with a woman (over the phone) four or five times before deciding to take her out to dinner.
In regards to the women pulling the 90-day rule, I myself have used it one time and one time only. I soon realized after that relationship flopped that it honestly doesn’t matter how long you wait to engage in sex in terms of a “better” or “long-lasting” relationship. Sidebar: I waited for five months and the relationship ended on month ten, so there’s no guarantee. If you’re into someone and it’s mutual on both ends, why not? Now, will I hop in bed with someone after the first or third date? No.
I, like any other woman on the dating scene, like to be courted, but then again I’m also not putting myself on a time constraint. When you have something like that looming in the back of your mind, I feel like the relationship becomes a waiting game that can make you forget you’re supposed to be having fun, not worrying about how long you should hold out. So, would I feel some type of way about a man putting me on a 90-day rule? Hell yes! Isn’t that what courting is about? Maybe I’m a bit traditional with that sense, but I do believe guys should pay for dates regardless– no 90-day rule over here!
All in all, the ladies came to the consensus that you can’t put a price on your flower. What are your thoughts? Watch the video above and chime in the comments below.