Vetting Your Love Interest: The Dos and Donts

Good, Bad, Or Indifferent The Past Is Important

Yes, maintaining an heir of mystery is essential. However, getting to know about one’s previous relationships gives context. For the most part, the point of dating is to see if two individuals are a good fit to eventually merge lives. Many people find it uncomfortable to divulge in details but they are often very important.

As a man, I want to know everything. I want to know names of exes, things that have happened, and why they fell apart. What if I want to have a child and I want to honor a family member whose name happened to be that of an ex who violated you? If we are physically intimate I don’t want to touch someone in a way that once made them uncomfortable and bring back a Vietnam Flashback. What if I love a favorite television show or something and they used to date the celebrity? I can’t know where to take you if I don’t know where you’ve been.