This week I’ve carried Being Mary Jane’s season final with me, dissecting just what went right and what went wrong. To be quite honest, I felt as if the two-hour finale was a little disappointing. If you’ve been living up under a rock Being Mary Jane is a BET produced series airing the reality of Mary Jane (Gabrielle Union) as she tries to balance a booming career, family, social issues, a love life and well, the realities of aging. This past Tuesday the season’s finale may have been a bit lackluster, but it did present some lessons on love.
As soon as Sheldon and Mary Jane had finally established that they were in a relationship things began to crumble. All of the talking to get to know each other’s likes, dislikes, and favorite Eddie Murphy movies were only surface topics; they didn’t vet each other properly. This came about when Mary Jane stayed over for an extended period of time and she found out what Sheldon’s lifestyle really was. It wasn’t until repeatedly harping about her toothbrush that Sheldon came clean about his long-term goals.
When beginning a relationship this process is crucial.
It is something that takes time. Even then, we don’t really get to know someone until you live with them. People are constantly evolving; so you’re always relearning someone you know well. The acceptance of this before committing to someone for life is difficult to do unless your foundation is solid. Using Beng Mary Jane as the backdrop, I’ve established key points to remember while on the dating journey.
