Feminista Jones: Conquer Your Sexual Comfort Zone

What’s Holding You Back?

It’s important to assess the impact our upbringing and experiences have had on how we engage in sexual activity as adults. I recommend thinking more about how family, religion, and trauma may be affecting your ability to open up and explore more. There may be things you experienced, conversations you’ve had, or ideologies you’ve been raised on that are like the voyeuristic elephant in the room pointing a video camera right at your bed.

If your religious upbringing keeps you from experimenting with kinkier acts, perhaps revisiting the texts and looking for the exact passages that say you can’t enjoy them might help, hmmm? Or if your family has focused more on sexual shaming than sexual celebration, maybe it’s time you remind yourself that your family is not welcomed into your bedroom. And if you have experienced any type of sexual trauma, you may consider seeking professional help and support to work through the impact that trauma has had and continues to have on your sexual expression.