Being Pretty Won’t Save You From Getting Cheated On
It seems as though Amber Rose has been winning ever since Wiz Khalifa f**ked up and cheated on her. Her string bikini Instagram posts damn near broke the Internet and she seems to be holding her own professionally with Nick Cannon as a manager with a set of matching Ferraris to prove it. But even with all them curves and the car to handle them, many fans questioned, “Why in the hell would Wiz Khalifa ever cheat on a woman who most men risked their own relationships just to follow on Instagram?” To which Wiz casually tweeted, “Yes, my baby’s mother is fine as f—.”
Admittedly I was confused at the whole situation like it was in fact one of the world’s greatest wonders. Who built the pyramids? Do aliens exist? Why would Jay-Z ever cheat on Beyonce and why in the hell would Wiz Khalifa cheat on Amber Rose with who appeared to a sloppy porn star that he was posted up with in a half-naked selfie session of his own? So I proceeded to ask my husband why any man in his right mind would cheat on any woman that seems to have it all? His answer was as simple as this: “Have you ever heard a man say, ‘Naw, I’ll pass on this pu**y. I have a bad ass girlfriend at home.’? Yeah, didn’t think so.”
I once wrote an article called “6 Ways Women Try To Keep Men From Cheating That Don’t Work” and the moral of the story is if you have a man that’s fully committed to you and respects and values your relationship, I don’t care if you look like Nia Long or Jackie Long, he will remain faithful to you. A cheater is a cheater. People can change, but it’s usually on their own terms. This means that you can be tighter than a fresh turtle neck, make the best fried chicken with one finger, know the individual stats of every player on the New York Knicks and look like Halle Berry and that still won’t make a man who isn’t interested in committing to you stay faithful.
On the other hand, actor Jesse Williams met a lot of criticism from fans who didn’t approve of his wife who is often described as “average” or “regular”. It’s as if just because he’s all pretty and light-eyed, fans were disappointed that he didn’t wife up some Tyra Chanel Selita supermodel. But the truth is when it comes to any man that’s worth having being pretty won’t save you, and more than that, pretty shouldn’t save you. Pretty fades and the truth is that there are some men out there who are caught up in their own egos and only want to get the pretty girl to cheat on her to prove that they cannot be tamed.
People cheat for a lot of reasons, but if being “bad” is all you’re bringing to the table, you’re going to be quoting a whole lot Mary J. Blige and Jazmine Sullivan heartbreak lyrics on your Instagram. Be honest with yourself about who you’re in a relationship with and their interest in building a life with you. Being faithful to someone is about loving a person for who they are regardless of if they’re tore up in a track suit or fine as f**k in a string bikini.
Toya Sharee is a community health educator and parenting education coordinator who has a passion for helping young women build their self-esteem and make well-informed choices about their sexual health. She also advocates for women’s reproductive rights and blogs about everything from beauty to love and relationships. Follow her on Twitter @TheTrueTSharee or visit her blog, Bullets and Blessings.