You like the dude, he’s definitely not your man (yet), but you want to get there. Problem is, you’re getting a little static from his end. Is he feeling you or what? If your guy exhibits three or more of the following behaviors, it’s time to hang it up.
Check it!
1. You “have” to call/text him at least 10 times before he responds.
This is a gigantic red flag (for both of you actually). If he can’t even bother to take 10 seconds to send you a text message saying he’ll call you later or whatever, then chances are you are not even close to being a priority. On the other hand, if you ever call somebody 10 times in a row for a non-emergency, YOU for sure have some issues.
2. He never initiates date nights.
Some guys just aren’t the creative/romantic types, but if homeboy never says something along the lines of “Hey, I miss you. Let’s hang out tonight” or “What is your Saturday looking like,” he’s not making time for you in his life. You are barging into his schedule. Not the move.
3. Your “grand gesture” fell flat.
So maybe you kinda felt the “meh”-ness of this guy’s reaction to you, so you decided to make a grand gesture of sorts to let him know you were in it to win it. Your carefully planned evening of all of his favorite things from tickets to the game to a homecooked meal full of the things he loves, was received with more attitude than gratitude. You got a “That was cool” instead of the heartfelt thank you you’d hoped for.
4. His phone is way more interesting than you.
It seems no matter what you say or do, you are never more interesting than sophomoric texts from his boys, work emails or Angry Birds. Maybe there’s an app for that called “There’s a Human Right Next to You, Put Down Your Phone and Interact.” Funny how he’s always to busy to answer your calls, but when you two are together, his phone is his main focus. Food for thought…
5. He never goes out of his way to do anything for you.
You practically broke your back trying to get your “grand gesture just right, but this sucka is hard pressed to move over to make room for you on the couch. Can you get SOME effort? Sheesh.
6. You know very little about his life outside of you.
It’s not that you expect to have met his entire family and best friend from second grade, but you wouldn’t even be able to tell anyone where he and his boys hang out or what kind of relationship he has with his co-workers. It feels like you’re some kind of secret corner in his life. If you are becoming an important part of his life, he would introduce you to other important parts of his life.
7. He bounces as soon as the deed is done.
After you two have finished doing the horizontal tango, he’s always ready to dip in his car back to the house you’ve never seen the inside of. Hmmm, guess that’s another sign.
Is your dude exhibiting any of this behavior? It just might be time to move on, girl.
