What Your Sexual Fantasies Say About You

2. Submission Fantasy

Ladies, ever had a fantasy that went something like this: A ruggedly attractive man throws you down and begins to rip off your clothes while you protest. He aggressively, yet passionately kisses you while you scream and try to fight him off. But you can’t fight him off because he’s just too powerful.  You’re panting, out of breath, and he’s now got you pinned down, his body pressed between your open thighs. For a moment your eyes lock. His stare is intense- he must have you. Then, somewhere between fear and desire, something takes over, and your body starts screaming “YES!” even though your lips were once shouting “no.”

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Submission fantasies are very common among women- especially strong women that are used to being in control in their everyday lives. Why do we have them? Mostly the fantasy serves as a way of counteracting anxiety/guilt/shame about initiating sex. And for a domineering woman, this type of fantasy offers a certain relief from her every day routine, because it allows her to give up control while giving someone else the “responsibility” of taking charge.