Let me ask you ladies a few questions- do you have sexual fantasies? Now before you say something like- “No, Dr. Phoenyx. I don’t fantasize. Especially not those really hot, kinky, dirty kind of fantasies” – let me first assure you that sexual fantasies are nothing to be ashamed of. Sexual fantasies are a natural way to escape reality, satisfy curiosity and relieve anxiety. It’s all perfectly healthy. And we’ve all had sexual fantasies.
Furthermore, sexual fantasies can even enable us to enhance our sexual experiences. How? Well, many people think sexual arousal and orgasm is about genital stimulation- but they’re wrong. Do you know what your most powerful sex organ is? It’s your brain. That’s right ladies. Your brain is your most powerful means of getting off.
Now with that being stated, have you ever wondered what your fantasies mean, or what they say about you? Ever had a hot lesbian fantasy and then started to wonder whether it meant you were interested in batting for the other team? If you’ve ever had a sexual fantasy and wondered what it meant in regards to your sexual orientation or degree of freakiness, then you should definitely read on.
Overall, in women, sexual fantasies have been shown to be associated with higher sexual desire and sexual satisfaction. Sexual fantasies are, and should be, part of a healthy sex life. It’s nothing to worry about or be ashamed of. So go ahead ladies and let your imaginations run wild! Remember- a dirty mind is a terrible thing to waste 😉
1. Bisexual/Lesbian Fantasy
Bisexual/lesbian fantasies are not at all uncommon. Many women are naturally bi-curious, and research has shown that sexuality, especially in women, can be quite fluid. So if you’re a heterosexual woman that has had or is currently having sexual fantasies about the same sex, it doesn’t necessarily mean you should start questioning your sexuality. Lesbian/bisexual fantasies simply mean that you appreciate the sexiness of the female form, that you’re very confident in your own sexuality and that you’re open-minded about pleasure.
2. Submission Fantasy
Ladies, ever had a fantasy that went something like this: A ruggedly attractive man throws you down and begins to rip off your clothes while you protest. He aggressively, yet passionately kisses you while you scream and try to fight him off. But you can’t fight him off because he’s just too powerful. You’re panting, out of breath, and he’s now got you pinned down, his body pressed between your open thighs. For a moment your eyes lock. His stare is intense- he must have you. Then, somewhere between fear and desire, something takes over, and your body starts screaming “YES!” even though your lips were once shouting “no.”
Whew! Let’s take a moment…
Submission fantasies are very common among women- especially strong women that are used to being in control in their everyday lives. Why do we have them? Mostly the fantasy serves as a way of counteracting anxiety/guilt/shame about initiating sex. And for a domineering woman, this type of fantasy offers a certain relief from her every day routine, because it allows her to give up control while giving someone else the “responsibility” of taking charge.
3. Domination Fantasy
Even have a fantasy where you were ordering your man to perform a sexual act on you? Did you even order him to pleasure you- and then not reciprocate? Though domination fantasies are more common among men, there are definitely women who get off on the idea of making a man pleasure them while he says her name. What does having domination fantasies say about you? Well, the fantasy is pretty much the opposite of the submission/rape fantasy and thus is an indication of your desire to take control, especially if you’re used to being passive or submissive in your ever day routine.
4. Two-Man Ménage à Trois
Ever thought about getting it on with two men at once? Many women in relationships have fantasized about what it would be like to be with two men at the same time. Does this mean that your current lover isn’t man enough for you? Not at all. If you’ve ever had a fantasy about two men sexually pleasuring you, then it probably just means that you enjoy to be adored by men. And depending on how aggressive the imagined sex is, it could also mean that you even like to be fought over by men.
5. Man in Uniform Fantasy
Do you have fantasies about police or firemen? Ever wonder what that’s about? Well, women equate uniforms with words like “authority” and “take charge.” And the “man in uniform fantasy” is working on the “damsel in distress” element which signifies a woman’s desire to be rescued and then seduced by a man who knows what he’s doing.
6. The Ms. Robinson Fantasy
Ever had a fantasy about seducing a sexually inexperienced young man and teaching him how to make love? Ever wonder what this fantasy means or say about you? Having Ms. Robinson type fantasies doesn’t mean folk need to hide their kids, hide their wife, and hide their husbands. It simply means that you get off on “forbidden” sex- which can be highly arousing and is completely normal.
7. Exhibition/Voyeur Fantasy
Ever fantasize about having sex in front of an audience? Or maybe you’ve fantasized about being watched by an admirer while you masturbate? Whether it’s being watched by one viewer or a larger audience, exhibition/voyeur-like fantasies are all about you enjoying your ability to make others feel sexually aroused. This is also very similar the “stripper fantasy” or “prostitute fantasy.” In all these cases, the fantasy is about creating sexual arousal in others which ultimately feeds a woman’s ego and gives her an intense feeling of power.
Do you think sexual fantasies are a healthy part of relationships and sex?
What are some of your favorite fantasies? C’mon ladies- don’t be shy! And fellas feel free to share too!
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