Are Some People Really “Polyamorous” or Just Plain Greedy?

7. Myth: Finding “The One” is a simple definition of traditional monogamy. Fact: I have a tremendous amount of respect and admiration for penguins based on their ability to mate for life. Could you imagine having to hear that same squawk every damn day? I also admire couples who maintain a strong relationship with their first love throughout a lifetime filled with problems that include a whole lot more than finding fish. Traditional monogamy is ideal for many, but uncommon for most. It doesn’t necessarily represent perfection either. People who are traditionally monogamous have their share of problems as well.  Serial monogamy or some of the other relationship styles allow people to get to know a variety of people and get a more accurate feel for what they desire and do not want in the relationship they eventually settle down in. It isn’t healthy to sacrifice your happiness trying to live up to society’s expectation of true, romanticized fairy-tale love. While traditional monogamy could be described as finding “The One”, most people will experience longevity and fulfillment with “The Third”, “The Fourth” or the “The Fifteenth”. Toya Sharee is a community health educator who blogs about everything from beauty to love and relationships.  Follow her on Twitter @TheTrueTSharee.