As a man, I get asked alot of questions by women regarding other men. An abnormal amount of these questions happen to come right after a woman sleeps with a man and his behavior has changed. “I don’t get it, he went from calling me and wanting to go on dates all the time to disappearing on me and I can’t ever get ahold of him. I don’t know what happened.” Never one to mince words, I ask a few more questions to get an idea of what might’ve happened but it’s usually the same conclusion. He doesn’t like her. And when did he find that out? During his moment of clarity.
What Is The Moment of Clarity?
The moment of clarity is defined as the time right after a man orgasms when he comes to his senses. It’s called a “moment” of clarity, but can last anywhere from five seconds to a couple of minutes. It is during this time his true feelings for the woman will show up. There’s an emphasis on “clarity” with this phrasing, because up until a man sleeps with a woman, he’s not sure how he feels about her either.
What? That’s strange? Not really.
Let’s discuss, shall we?
Man Meets Woman
A man sees a woman on the street and he’s attracted to her. Yes, he wants to get to know her likes and dislikes (maybe). Yes, he wants to talk to her and go on a date with her (probably). He might even want to be her boyfriend just based on how attractive she is (more often than not). But before all of that, he wants to sleep with her (definitely). Yes, ladies, 99% of the time a man is approaching because he wants to get in your pants. If this wasn’t common knowledge before, you’re welcome.
Men love the chase. I don’t know if it’s in our DNA or we just ended up loving it to cope with
being forced having to do it, but it is what it is. As such, there is an adrenaline rush that comes with the chase. Everything is exciting, the anticipation is palpable, and the focus is on getting to the “finish line.” Many times, the finish line is sex. It’s why we’re ok with spending an hour on the phone with you, why we don’t mind going to the mall to shop with you, or why we watch all the stuff on tv you like to watch even though we hate it.
It’s a woman reading this right now saying to the computer, “damn, you don’t even have to do all that, these women out here doing far more for way less.” If that woman is you, do me a favor. Be quiet. You’re not a man. Don’t tell me about the male experience. If you have a homeboy reading this and he’s laughing and nodding with approval while you’re trying to tell both of us we’re wrong, stop it. We know what the deal is. I’m trying to help you out.
Love Changes, A Thug Changes, And Best Friends Become [Sex Buddies]..Word Up
After weeks (days?) of a man putting in work, the woman finally decides she’s willing to give up the “path to happiness.” He hits her up, asking her what she’s doing for the weekend. She says “you, if you want me to. Tee hee hee.” Knowing that his weeks (days?) of hard work is about to pay off, he makes sure to get super fresh for the evening. The weekend comes up, they go out and have a good time, both anticipating putting the “finishing touches” on the evening.
The date is over.
They decide to go to her house (because he has a roommate and his roommate is nosey) and decide to go “bang bang, like Gorillas.” (Bruno Mars, what up.)
A few weeks pass by and she notices his change in behavior. The texts aren’t as frequent. His time for her is nonexistent. He disappears for days or perhaps a week or two at a time. She doesn’t know what happened. “How come everything was going so well before we had sex and now when I want to be with him, he’s nowhere to be found?” she asks.
What she didn’t know is that in his moment of clarity he realized he, in fact, wasn’t that into her.
Now, I know for some of you women, the light just clicked on. And for some of you, you’re still in the dark. So I’m about to break this down for you. Let’s take it back to the night he finally “cracked the piggy bank.”
While you guys were in the room, sweating your lives away to the point of climax, both of you (hopefully) reached the promised land. While you, young lady, were laying in ecstasy thinking about taking his last name and having his babies, he was thinking about something different. After he left about half a billion potential babies in a latex condom (or on your face if you’re into that, being a good girl and all) he had a vision.
For the first time in weeks (days?), he was finally able to see clearly.
In his euphoric (and triumphant) moment, he was able to think clearly since his mission was accomplished. (The mission was sleeping with you, if that wasn’t clear.) Letting one off finally took out the cloudiness of his judgement and allowed him to see you for who you really are. Unfortunately, for whatever reason, he didn’t like what he saw and instead of just saying so, he decided to get ghost.
I’ve seen women come up with all manners of excuses to explain how they got “smashed and dashed.” His schedule didn’t get busy all of a sudden. There’s nothing going on at his job. Your sex wasn’t bad (well, it might’ve been). He didn’t think you were a skank for giving it up to early. Contrary to popular belief, most men don’t care if you give it up early, because most men know that if we want you, we want you. No amount of time passed is going to change my mind. The bottom line is, he had his moment of clarity and he decided you were no longer worth dealing with.
In conclusion, the moment of clarity happens right after a man “catches the big one” and lasts until he comes back to his senses. In that moment, he’s able to finally see how he feels about a woman and that determines how he’s going to treat her from that point forward. I know some women are reading this like, “there’s no way in hell this is accurate. G, you’re full of sh!t.” If you’re one of those women, fine. This was just a joke. Write an angry comment and continue on with your day.
For all the women who are currently reading this, as everything in the world slows around you because the truth of my words are slowly seeping in, you’re welcome. I’m just here to help. Fellas, I know some of y’all reading this like, “bro, I can’t believe you just gave away all this game.” I know. It’s probably a violation of some man code, but you have to know that 99% of the women reading this aren’t going to believe it anyway. Take solace in that. And if you can’t…That most certainly sounds like a personal problem.