A few years ago, the gospel music world was shocked to learn that Deitrick Haddon and his wife of 15 years, Damita, had quietly divorced and that Deitrick was expecting a child with his current wife, Domonique. Most folks assumed that there was some funny business going on behind the scenes and that there was a lot more to the story. Now, Damita, who has been rather quiet regarding the split, is speaking out. For starters, the recently remarried gospel singer says that her ex-husband definitely impregnated his current wife, Domonique, while they were still married. According to Damita, Deitrick picked up and left her almost immediately after the death of her mother.
“Nobody’s stupid,” Damita told Path MEGAzine of Deitrick’s questionable timeline of events. “Especially people who have been married before or been in relationships. The process of divorce takes time. If I was going through anything in our marriage and nothing was wrong in our marriage—I’m just putting that out there—we we’re bickering there was no infidelity. We were happily and successfully pastoring in Detroit.”
“He left in the Month of June, around the BET Celebration of Gospel, I believe,” she added. “He left two days after I buried my mom. Until that day, what ever issues or arguments or beef that we had like marriages do, had been squashed after my mom died. I wasn’t under the impression that he was going anywhere but two days after I buried my mom he left. Next thing I know there’s somebody pregnant. That just doesn’t add up, you don’t sleep with a random person and get her pregnant.”
Damita went on to speculate that because of the timeline, she has no choice but to believe that Deitrick had been carrying on an affair with Domonique way before he decided to leave.
“I had been married for 15 years and I don’t know who she is so obviously there was something going on. Anybody’s that been married, male or female—and you don’t know this other person, then obviously there was something going on while you were married—this was a strange young girl, it doesn’t add up when you do the math.”
While Deitrick initially told his congregation that there was no infidelity on his part and that he and Damita were separated, the “No Turning Back” singer says his stories simply did not add up.
“As a woman, we have intuition. I was trying to figure out I said ‘what would make a man leave all this; leave his church, leave his wife?’ I didn’t know at that time but something in me said ‘somebody’s pregnant.’ In December of 2011, I got the confirmation that somebody was pregnant. That just does not happen in the amount of time. But be that as it may, I knew it was the pressure of him knowing that he made this mistake and he didn’t know how to handle it. So the best thing to do is to retreat and to run and to hide. To give into the shame and embarrassment of what had happened and the best thing to do is to throw me under the bus because he’s getting all the flack for it.”
Thankfully, Damita’s story does come with a happy ending. Earlier this year, she married photographer Reuben Chandler.
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