To many women, being described as “Hot” is the ultimate compliment. Hot is the epitome of femininity and the embodiment of sophistication and sensuality. The label implies that not only is a woman attractive but that she also elicits passion and desire and stimulates all of the senses.
The secret about sex appeal is that it’s less about looks and more about inner confidence. What makes a woman Hot is not necessarily about the stilettos she steps out in, but how she carries herself in them. Here are ten ways to introduce a little bit of Hot into your daily routine:
1. Stop saving the Hot underwear for “getting some”.
Many women think black lace boy shorts are only for impressing potential bedroom buddies, but the truth is that most men can’t distinguish La Perla from Playtex. There’s something soothing and sensual about the feeling of silk, lace or satin cradling your most intimate parts. Knowing that, secretly, beneath your pinstriped pantsuit you’re rocking leopard print panties can give you an extra boost confidence you may need in the boardroom. Make your fancy intimates a daily part of your wardrobe as well as the understanding that the most important person you can be Hot for, is yourself.
2. Where there’s smoke, there’s fire.
When it comes to cosmetics there’s nothing hotter than a smoky eye. Smoky eyes are bit severe for a daytime look, but by night this look is the secret ingredient to the sexiest smoldering, come-hither glare. Grey, navy and dark green are all shadow colors that can be used to achieve this popular makeup technique. Kits like Sephora’s Beauty in a Box Hot Smoky Eye Palette can help you achieve this sophisticated look in six easy steps. Hot is in the eye of the beholder, so if you don’t know your lines, the least you can do is look the part.
3. Put your back into it.
Showing some skin can be intimidating because the usual displays include cleavage or a little bit of leg which can be inappropriate for some occasions. Choose a less popular body part to highlight like your collarbone, back or shoulders. This trick conveys sex appeal without appearing desperate. An open-back dress can draw attention at a cocktail party for all of the right reasons. Off the shoulder sweaters leave much to the imagination while also showing off a sensual neckline. Choose a part of your body that you are proud of and find a clever way to allow it sometime in the spotlight.
4. Pull a Rapunzel and let your hair down.
Pulling you hair into a ponytail or twisting it into a messy chignon is effortless and easy, but ironically can make you seem uptight and low maintenance. The first step to relaxing and releasing is letting your hair down. Sex appeal is all about appearing calm, cool and collected and fussy tight styles are anything but that. Opt for looks that don’t require an arsenal of styling products and tools and that are easy to maintain.
5. Splash on the scent of attraction.
Your scent sends a message about the kind of woman you are before you even enter the room so it’s important to choose something that accurately represents your character and compliments your natural body chemistry. Floral scents like Ralph Lauren Romance and Givenchy Very Irresistible contain notes of peony, tuberose and rose and send a message of femininity and passion. Fresh scents like DKNY Be Delicious represent effervescence and energy and often contain notes of citrus. The free-spirited and nurturing woman might prefer Gucci by Gucci or Miss Dior Cherie with notes of sandalwood and patchouli and oriental scents like Calvin Klein Euphoria are for the spicy and fiery femme fatale who enjoys scents of spice and cinnamon. Whatever your choice, make sure that it enhances your unique personality.
6. Fake it until you make it
A large component of sex appeal is confidence, but those of us still trying to find the way to self assurance may need some assistance. Convincing yourself that you are a captivating vixen may require stepping outside your comfort zone and partaking in the behavior and practices that you consider Hot although you may not yet be able to see yourself in that way. Seek inspiration in celebrities that embody your idea of Hot. Maybe you admire Gabrielle Union’s girl-next-door charm or Selita Ebanks’ s sultry sophistication. It’s ok to emulate the professionals while you hone an attitude of your very own.
7. Pump it up.
Everyone should own at least one pair of high heels. High heels by design improve your posture because they force you to stand tall which is a symbol of confidence and professionalism. They also accentuate your leg muscles. Afraid of breaking your ankles? Start off with shorter heels no higher than three and a half inches and work your way up to higher heels when you’ve learned how to maintain your balance. Keep in mind that it’s important to give your feet a rest and switch up styles regularly; abusing high heels can result in muscle overuse, foot deformation and back pain.
8. Treat the world like your own personal runway
Taking long strides and tilting your head back tells the world that you are about your business. Allow your arms to swing naturally and keep an expression that is thoughtful and approachable. A strong walk is determined purposeful and nothing is sexier than a woman with a sense of purpose.
9. Create a signature look
You know you can count on Rihanna to turn heads with a sassy short cut. Most celebrities have stylist to help them create a specific image, but us regular folk can also represent our own individual style without much hassle. Maybe you have an eye for eclectic jewelry or you can’t be spotted without a creative manicure. Finding a unique way to brand yourself is the first step to starlet status.
10. Accept yourself…flaws and all.
The sexiest sista doesn’t avoid her imperfections, she embraces them. She also doesn’t hold the flaws of others over their heads. Flaws can sometimes be Hot in their own right: beauty marks are nothing but misplaced moles and a come-hither glare sometimes goes by the name of a crooked smile. Hot is far from perfect. It’s never forced or rehearsed, and remember: If it requires too much effort then it probably isn’t very Hot at all.
