If there’s one thing we’ve learned from TV shows these days — scripted and unscripted — it’s that it’s not as hard as you may think to find yourself the other woman. According to data from the recent General Social Survey, 20% of men and 13% of women reported that they’ve had sex with someone other than their spouse while married, the Institute for Family Studies reported. If we’re talking Black men specifically, that figure jumps to 28%. But just because a man steps out on his wife doesn’t mean he leaves her forever.
Infidelity is a leading cause for divorce, but that’s often because the partner who was cheated on sees the breach of trust as a “final straw” in the breakdown of the relationship. Anecdotal evidence shows, however, that left up to the man, he would happily stay married — and likely happily stay cheating. As one woman put it in an article on Today: “Men don’t leave. They just want it all.” That means if you’re clinging to a situation with a married man, it’s pretty inevitable that things won’t end in your favor.
If you’re struggling to cut ties, here are a few tips that might help you let that toxic relationship go.
Go Cold Turkey
Delete his number, de-friend him on Facebook, cut off his friend circle, then keep yourself busy with friends until the sting wears off. And when you feel like backsliding…