Silly Sex Stereotypes That People Love To Believe

2.  “Black woman don’t perform oral sex.”

I remember the only conversation I ever had with my mom that even hinted at oral sex.  It was extremely awkward and all I took from it was that, “Good girls didn’t do dirty things like that.”  The funny thing about sex is there’s a big difference between what many women say they don’t do and what they actually don’t do.  What goes down in your bedroom is your business, and everything isn’t for everybody.

I do think it’s important to stop upholding this belief that oral sex is dirty or deviant. With black women having such an explicit history of sexual objectification, I think as a community we sometimes overcompensate to be symbols of respect and sophistication and the last thing that represents respect is being on your knees in front of man. Wife, mother and maneater don’t have to be mutually exclusive roles.  The most empowering thing we can do in terms of our sexuality is own what we find pleasurable…regardless of what your mom or your man tells you belongs in your mouth.