Silly Sex Stereotypes That People Love To Believe
14. “Having a bunch of kids means you are good at sex.”
I caught wind of this belief while watching BET’s “Being Mary Jane” during a scene where the main character talked to her niece about all of the kids she kept creating. I think secretly when some women get caught in a cycle of repeated pregnancies under poor circumstances, they begin to believe what redeems that is that they must be good at sex, otherwise why would men keep impregnating them? I don’t think many women truly believe this, but for those who do, don’t get it twisted: There are men out here who would inadvertently knock up a can of stewed tomatoes if it had a uterus. Repeated pregnancies don’t make you a p*rn star. Same goes for the guys. It’s one thing to choose to have a large family, but if you think that the ability to pro-create in anyway relates to your sexual skill, you need to do some soul-searching on other skills to add to your resume.
Toya Sharee is a community health educator and parenting education coordinator who has a passion for helping young women build their self-esteem and make well-informed choices about their sexual health. She also advocates for women’s reproductive rights and blogs about everything from beauty to love and relationships. Follow her on Twitter @TheTrueTSharee or visit her blog, Bullets and Blessings.