No one wants to be classified as the side chick, and no matter how much you want to believe that you are the only woman, sometimes guys can be much trickier than you think. Men will go to all sorts of lengths to ensure that they can juggle as many girls as possible, without even considering his present relationship status. Here are 14 signs that you are the side chick and that you need to leave ASAP! Unless you don’t mind that sort of thing.
His house is a mystery
You’ve never been invited to his house for a date. You have no idea what his house looks like or where he even lives, despite the fact that you two have been dating for months now. When a guy is entirely uninterested or unwilling to show you his home or invite you into it, it’s likely because he shares his home with another woman. He doesn’t want to get caught in his lie and there’s not enough time to hide the evidence and then put everything back into its place.
You’re not connected through social networks
Finding someone who isn’t on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter, is like finding a needle in a haystack. When you’re the girl on the side, you may find that your guy says he doesn’t use social networking, or he makes some other excuse as to why you can’t be his friend on Facebook or follow him on Twitter. In fact, he locks everything down to ensure you can’t somehow connect via social networking. This is probably because social networking sites are some of the easiest ways to get caught.
He’s protective of his phone
Men who are players tend to be highly protective of their phones. He has a password on his phone and makes sure to lock it after every time he uses it. When the phone rings, he either goes into another room to take the call, ignores it completely, or turns the volume down super low so that you can’t possibly hear a thing that is being said.
He’s always busy
While he will make time for you, it isn’t a substantial amount. He can only spend time with you on weekdays during the day and he can only call you while he’s at work. You rarely get a text from him during the evening hours, and if you do, it’s super late at night. When he says he will call you back soon, he doesn’t call you until a few days later. All clear signs that he has a main chick and you aren’t it.
Nothing ever randomly happens
You’re never able to randomly get in contact with him. Random and unplanned meet-ups for lunch are absolutely out of the question. Nothing can ever be last minute but instead has to be planned, sometimes weeks in advanced. This is usually because your guy has to not only set aside time for you, but he has to make up lies to tell his main chick.
You two don’t celebrate holidays
When Valentine’s Day comes, you don’t receive any type of gift. This goes for any other holiday as well, including your birthday, Christmas, or even your anniversary. This is because he doesn’t want to spend time or money on his side chick because his main chick is soaking it all up. When you do celebrate holidays, it’s never on the real day. Valentine’s Day is celebrated a week before, as are other holidays.
He’s never angry if you cancel
Even if you cancel at the very last minute, this guy isn’t ever the least bit angry or concerned. Most guys get a bit angry when a girl cancels on them, but not this man. Instead, he accepts it and almost seems a bit relieved by it. Why? Simply because he doesn’t have to put up a front and lie to his main chick. That makes his life a lot easier and lessens his chances of being caught red handed.
You’ve never met his friends or parents
Most men who are proud and happy with their relationship will eventually introduce their girlfriend to his parents and/or his friends. If you have never met, let alone spoken to his parents or friends, this is a huge sign that you can’t be known amongst his inner circles. Why? Because he’d immediately be ousted as a cheater and a player.
He doesn’t talk about his past relationships
When you’ve asked about his past relationships, he never has much to say. He will either blow off the topic completely and move onto something new, or he’ll say a few words, but that’s about it. If you’re the side chick, this guy does not want to risk saying something he shouldn’t that will blow his cover. Instead, he avoids certain topics, especially ones regarding relationships.
He cancels a lot
Weeks ago you two planned a date at a nice restaurant, but just yesterday he had to cancel immediately. A true sign that you’re the side chick is when a guy continuously and randomly has to cancel spending time with you. When his main chick is in the picture, he of course has to put her first, so your planned time together takes the back burner.
He rarely spends the night
Even after a fun night together, this man will rarely spend the entire night with you. Sleeping over almost never happens and when it does, he has to leave at the most random times. This guy may be with you until 3AM, but he absolutely refuses to fall asleep at your house. More than likely this is because he knows he has to get back home to be with his main chick, who is probably expecting him home after a “guys night out,” or whatever excuse he offered to her.
Your relationship is almost entirely physical
When he compliments you, it’s about how nice your body is or how good you are in bed. When you two spend time together, it usually ends up between the sheets. He doesn’t wine and dine you often but instead focuses more on having you and getting out. When a guy refuses to connect with you on a mental or emotional level, it could be because he’s already connected that way with his main woman.
You don’t go to many public places
When you two go on dates, it’s either in another town over, some small local place, or it’s at your house. This is because he doesn’t want to get caught with you in public by someone he knows, albeit a friend or coworker. And on the off chance that you two are in public, PDA is very rare. He doesn’t hold your hand and he doesn’t show you a lot of public affection.
He never talks about the future
Asking him about his views on the future of your relationship is like pulling teeth. Simply put, this guy doesn’t want to think about the future because he really isn’t planning one. In his mind he’s probably well aware that keeping you as the other woman won’t last for too long, so why plan on a future at all?