Singles are often disillusioned when they find their prospects of finding a long term mate in their zip code area are not so plentiful. They go out to local bars and single’s events hoping to find the man or woman of their dreams only to end up having spent a lot of time and money with no return on their investment. As a result, they may become disappointed with the opposite sex or with the quality of life in that area.
Generally, singles tend to become lonely when they’re not connected to others through relationships. Sure, you can always make connections through friendships, family relationships, work relationships, or other associations but there’s still that sense of longing to be with someone in a deeply, committed love relationship. It’s really the emotional and physical intimacy they crave that they can’t get through any other type of connection which can lead to sadness and loneliness for them.
I hear women in major cities often complain about the ratio of women to men as the reason why they can’t find a man. On the other hand, I hear men in small towns also complain about the lack of women in their area as the reason they can’t find a woman. Statistically, their assessment may be true in some cases but there may be other reasons underlying their single status.
For example, sometimes it’s not the ratio at all but the culture in that environment which may not be conducive for dating, especially in urban cities where ”hooking up” is more normal than the actual process of going out on a date. Or you may live in an area where it is normal for ”serial dating.” In other words, singles who are ”serial daters” get together for single and group activities but have no desire for long term commitment. These may not be the ideal places to live if you want to meet a man or woman who is ready to settle down or get married.
However, no matter what your situation is in your current environment, relocating to a different area can be a huge life transition. Don’t even think of doing this until you at least have asked yourself the following questions to gain more clarity:
1. What have I tried so far to find that ideal relationship? What have others in my current area done to find their mate? How would others perceive my efforts in this process? You may want to evaluate whether you have exhausted all of your options for dating including going out to singles events, online dating, speed dating events, etc., to find love. Dating can be a lot of work but the rewards pay off enormously once you find that special person. Also, try to find out what others in your area have done to find their mate. They may be helpful to you in identifying resources or alternative methods for dating that could lead you to that ideal mate without you ever having to relocate.
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