Are You the Man in Your Relationship?

I know, you’re saying put on the breaks, what about women who actually prefer to be the “man” in the relationship? I say more power to ya, Madame. We’ll address that topic in another article, but this time, we’re talking about being part of a couple where he isn’t necessarily stepping up to the plate. As independent as you want to be, there are certainly many times when you want your man to be THE MAN.

Are you still confused? Whether you’d like to admit it or not, here are some signs that you are the man in the relationship:

• He always forgets his wallet, so you have to make sure you carry money everywhere you two go.
• You always call him. (so much of a no no, I can’t even tell you)
• He’s very laid-back when it comes to romance.
• He doesn’t put an equal amount of effort into the relationship.
• He doesn’t “believe” in Valentine’s Day and doesn’t do romance any other day.
• You have to plan everything or else you two would never do anything.
• He doesn’t initiate any help around the house and when you have to finally ask, he huffs and puffs.

If you like the roles, then more power to you. If you’d like your man to “make that change” as MJ would say, I have to be honest, you have much work ahead of you. Talk to your beau and see where he stands. If he winces when you bring up the idea of him contributing more to the decisions that you have to make for the two of you as a couple or family, then take a deep breath and start compromising.