Should He Meet The Minis? Things to Consider Before Introducing Him to Your Kid(s)

3. Are They Still Attached to Your Ex?

Whether your ex is the child’s father, or a man you dated previously, it may be too soon to introduce your child to someone new if they’re still attached to your ex. If they’ve met and bonded with a guy you dated for a while, the memories they created with him may be too fresh for them to even think about mommy loving someone else. Your children date who you date, and even if you have moved on and are ready to love again, they may still need time to heal and process the end of the relationship.

Most children want their parents to be together, so if your ex is their father, they may not be ready to see you with someone else. Both mother and father deserve to be happy and find love in someone new, so it’s not about getting permission – it’s about considering their feelings. Talk to them and explain that their parents don’t have to be together in order to love them. Their ages and maturity level will determine how in-depth and meaningful this conversation will be, so handle their feelings with care. If the ex isn’t their father, but they grew to love him as one, give it time to let the old memories fade and keep the new guy away for a little while until they are less vulnerable.