Don’t Play With Me: 6 Things You Don’t Joke About With Black Women
As a whole, the black community has a great sense of humor. When you’ve been through as much shyte as black people have been through, a good sense of humor is almost essential. Without it, you just might lose your mind. But there’s a limit to everything. Some “jokes” are too close to home to be funny. These aren’t hard fast rules, but when it comes to black women and these areas, you might want to tread lightly or completely avoid them altogether.
Donna Summer never lied when she said, “She works hard for the money, so you better not screw with it.” Alright, so she didn’t quite say that. But I’m sure we share the same sentiment. After we’ve spent a majority of our days away from our kids and loved ones, slaving away for the man, the very last thing you want to do is either try to stop my hustle, or misuse the money I’ve entrusted you with. There have been many a relationship, whether romantic, familial or platonic, that have been completely shattered because of a monetary issue. Don’t do it.
I don’t know if you’ve noticed this or not but women, and particularly black women, want our hair to be fresh. Whether you’re relaxed or natural, we can all agree that we don’t want to be caught out in public with our hair looking a mess… unless it’s an emergency. So if for whatever reason, you’re not feeling our hairstyle at a particular moment, it’d probably be in your best interest to ignore it. We really don’t want to hear the negative feedback. Because if I did my hair and stepped out, then I think I look fresh. And if I didn’t have a chance to work with it, then I probably know I’m looking strug. If you must express an opinion about my coiffure, make sure it’s to celebrate instead of criticize.
Men love to call us crazy. And that may be so. But women aren’t the only crazy folk walking this earth. There are plenty of crazy men to go around. Maybe you’ve run into a couple. Honestly, if we’re a little off-center, 6.75 times out of 10 it’s because of something a man has or hasn’t done.
My father told me that Kareem Abdul Jabar once called another player a motherf**er and when a reporter asked him about it, he told him that calling someone a “motherf***er” is the highest insult in the black community because we revere our mothers so much. In other words, if you were to f**k your mother, whether literally or figuratively, you are lower than the scum of the earth. Abusing your mother is bad enough but allowing someone else to talk smack about her, past a certain extent, is downright unacceptable. I know somehow, somewhere people have lost their lives flapping their gums about somebody’s beloved mother. If you value life, don’t mess with moms.
The single sistas know how hard it can be to find a good one. So once you’ve got him, it’s important that you don’t let the outsiders, whether they’re your family, friends or a random strangers, try to play your man. We all know that the male ego can be a bit fragile, so you shouldn’t be ok with anyone stomping it.
I come from a long line of ride or die mothers. So if I’ve ever seen the women in my family act a fool, it was most likely after they felt someone had wronged their children. My mother once told me that before she had children, she was super chill and didn’t worry about anything. I don’t know that woman. And I know the women in my family, aren’t the only ones who operate like this. Kids should be a mother’s top priority, so saying something slick about a [good] mother’s child, is just as good as committing suicide. Leave the babies alone.