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Recently R&B singer Monica released the video for her second single, ‘Love All Over Me’. In the video, the singer is caught in a love triangle between two men, her old love and her current fiancé; and while she clearly loved both men, her heart favored one over the other. So what’s someone to do when they’re with one person but their heart belongs to another? According to a recent study, this is the case in many relationships, especially for men.

Maybe Monica’s B.F.F., Keyshia Cole said it best when she sang, ‘it ain’t where he’s at but where he wants to be’; and according to the study conducted by OnePoll.Com, 1 out of 5 people in relationships would rather be somewhere else. This basically concludes that many adults are actually settling for who they’re with rather than being with whom they really want.

The study consisted of 3,000 people in relationships. 20 percent of the participants admitted that they were in love with someone else other than their mate. And according to the study men are more likely to fall for someone else with 29 percent saying they actually had plans to leave their mate for the other woman.

These less than romantic results suggest that for whatever reason, many people, most specifically men, are settling into relationships when their heart really belongs to someone else.  Is this reason divorce rates are increasingly high or cheating is so prevalent?

Too complex of a thought to dissect, but it still makes you wonder if the person you’re with or will be with is truly in love with you or just settling for second best. And can a healthy relationship really last if someone is in a committed relationship with one person but their heart has made a commitment to another?

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