5 Types Of Self-Punishment To Stop And What To Do Instead - Page 2
Withholding Joy

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When you were a kid, your parents grounded you if you got a bad grade. As an adult, you might ground yourself if you didn’t get that promotion. So you don’t go to dinner with your friends or on that weekend getaway. You don’t think you “deserve” joy or fun. It’s a common idea among self-punishers: that having fun is only for those who earned it.