Rick Gomez
Breaking out of your usual role in sex can be exciting. Some people like to do this with some simple role-play. Others like to alternate being the dom versus the sub. And some people do so through a little pegging. Yup, we’re talking about it.
Pegging, put simply, is an act that involves one person wearing a harness with a dildo attached to it and anally penetrating their partner. Originally, people discussed pegging in the context of a cisgender, heterosexual woman pegging her cisgender, heterosexual male partner. Since then, we’ve expanded the description to involve anyone, regardless of gender or sexual orientation, participating in anal penetration via the use of a harness and dildo.
If you and your partner are interested in pegging, you might not know how to get started. Well, you know where anatomically, but maybe you don’t know exactly how it works. We’ve got you covered; from the equipment you need to prep to what to expect. Here is your beginner’s guide to pegging.
First: Why Do People Like Pegging?
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Pegging can actually be very pleasurable for both parties, the one doing the pegging and the one receiving it. The P-spot (or the prostate gland) is accessed via the anal canal. For some men, having this stimulated through pegging can feel great – it can even trigger a prostate orgasm. Yup, that’s a thing.
As for the pegger, if they’re a woman, some harnesses and dildos are designed to offer clitoral stimulation. So both parties can climax during pegging.
There’s also the sexy psychological element of switching roles. If you’re used to being penetrated, doing the penetration can be really hot.
Pegging Equipment Shopping List
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There are a few basic things you’ll need to get started:
- A harness
- A dildo
- Lubricant
Beyond that, there are two main types of harnesses: underwear-style and strap-on-style. The former resembles underwear and the latter resembles a jockstrap.
You can also choose to buy your harness and dildo separately, or you can buy a combination that already contains both parts. The upside of buying them separately is that the pegger can choose the harness that’s most comfortable for them while the receiver can select the dildo that feels best for them. The upside of choosing a combo, especially if you’re new to pegging, is simply that there’s less to do to get started.
You’ll want to use a medical-grade silicone dildo, with water-based lube (ironically silicone-based lubricant does not work well with silicone sex toys).
As a beginner’s tip, get a small dildo to get started. You’ll probably want one that’s even smaller than you’d expect. You can always upgrade to larger ones when the receiver is ready.
How To Get Into It
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Like with any type of sex, foreplay matters and connection matters. So do whatever typically helps you and your partner get in the mood and get aroused. Kiss, touch each other, tease each other – you know what works for you.
When it’s time to get down to it, start with some light butt play. You could lightly finger (with plenty of lube) your partner’s anal canal. Or you could start with some rimming (aka licking, kissing or sucking on their anus).
When your partner is ready to be pegged, make sure to put plenty of lube on the dildo. Then consider what position will make your partner most comfortable. For beginners, lifted missionary can be a good place to start. This involves the pegger taking on the traditional “male” role in missionary, getting on top of their partner, who is on their back. The pegger will lift up the hips of their partner, so they can have access to their anus. This position lets you maintain eye contact, which also lets you gage how your partner is feeling.
Other popular positions involve doggy style and cowgirl or cowboy (pegged individual riding on top of pegger).
Penetrate very slowly at first, and then start with slow thrusts. Let the receiver tell you when they’re ready for more depth or speed.
A Note On Prep
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Some people who are interested in pegging are hesitant to try it because of, well, feces. The truth is that preparing for this factor is easy. The receiver can do a few things before sex, including using a water enema to clean out their anal canal, using a bidet or using a hand shower to thoroughly rinse the area.
