Bisexuality, pansexuality, demisexuality– these are some of the non-monogamous, non-hetero-normative sexualities you may have heard of.
In fact, MADAMENOIRE explored some sexualities you might not know about before. But asexuality isn’t discussed as much, even though asexuals make up roughly one percent of the population, according to The Asexual Visibility & Education Network. That might sound like a small amount of people, but it accounts for about 78 million individuals. That’s 78 million people who, as far as sexuality goes, have become invisible.
There is a chance you know someone who is asexual, and just because they won’t have stories of hookups or sexual adventures to share doesn’t mean that they don’t seek to be heard and understood. It’s time to better embrace and understand our asexual friends. Here are some things to know about asexuality so you can better relate to asexual individuals in your life.
What Does Asexuality Mean?
First and foremost, asexuals are a part of the LGBTQ+ community. That surprises some people because many believe that being asexual means never having sex or experiencing any sexual feelings. This is only sometimes true. Asexual individuals identify as having anywhere from zero to little desire for sexual encounters, as well as zero to little sexual attraction to others. Sometimes, under specific conditions, asexual individuals might experience sexual attraction, but they primarily identify with the experience of not feeling sexual attraction or desires.
Keeping in mind that sexuality is a spectrum, asexuality simply gives people who experience low or no sexual attraction/desire a label they can use to best describe their sexuality. However, in the same way bisexual individuals might lean more towards heterosexuality or homosexuality, an asexual person can land on various points of the sexuality spectrum. In fact, that’s why the term “graysexual” exists; it defines asexuals who sometimes experience sexual desire.
Asexual individuals are occasionally called demisexuals, because for some, an emotional connection is required for sexual attraction – as is the case with demisexuals. But, that doesn’t have to be the case. Asexuality and demisexuality are not interchangeable, but they can sometimes share similarities.