Is Sex What REALLY Gets A Man? See What These Men Have To Say

1. After sex, a man believes a woman will automatically want more from him emotionally that he cannot give. Because of this he avoids her.

2. If a man doesn’t know a woman well but has experienced sex with her he feels uneasy and therefore would rather she leave first thing in the morning or even directly after the act. He doesn’t feel this way with a woman he’s seriously dating because they’ve built a connection.

3. If he experienced a one night stand and is regretful he is more than likely already in a committed relationship and is reminded how committed sex feels more comfortable then casual sex. He realizes how unattached he is to the woman he just slept with.

4. Even if the woman convinces him otherwise he knows for sure he can’t be the first guy she gave it up to this quickly. He will automatically label her and most likely will not look at her as wife material.

5. Men love the thrill of the chase and they secretly will start to resent a woman for making it far too easy for him.

Since we’ve heard from the horse’s mouth how men really feel about us giving it up too soon, I think the best thing to do is to always get to know a man first before sleeping with him. This avoids him judging and making assumptions which probably aren’t even true. Unfortunately we live in a double standard, sexist world which means we as women have to be 2 steps ahead.

We have to think before we speak and plan before we act. Sure men want to have sex with us immediately but it’s the woman he had to “convince” to sleep with him that he ends up marrying. Look at it this way, we can NEVER go wrong by waiting to have sex with a guy. We avoid the guilt. We avoid that dreadful day following the act waiting for the phone to ring. We avoid feeling ashamed and used. We also avoid someone calling us easy. The bottom line is that sex may initially get a man’s attention if we throw it his way but it’s not whets keeping him around that next morning.

In my book “The Mean Girls Handbook of Etiquette” my co author and I have a chapter called “A Sunday kind of love” which is the title of an Etta James song. The song says “I want a Sunday kind of love, a love that lasts pasts Saturday night’. We all long for this kind of love and unfortunately that kind of love rarely lasts after a Saturday night fling. We as women long for spontaneous, sexual satisfaction at times. But in the end is it really worth your self esteem, the judgments, and post loneliness? Is a night of passion worth the 24 hours that lay ahead or the damage of a potential relationship? Definitley something for us to all think about.

Quierra Davis-Martin is the co-author of “The Mean Girls Handbook of Etitiquette” slated to hit shelves 2012. She was also the lead singer of the girl group Isyss. She has a great passion to inspire women all over the world to love themselves and to stay strong and true to themselves in love and in life.