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Every time another couple announces their engagement online, we’re all supposed to jump up and down for joy and assume this is nothing but a good thing. But, I mean, come on. With many marriages ending in divorce, I’m a bit more realistic than that. I know that a lot of marriages end because they started for the wrong reasons. Sure, there are couples who truly believed they were right for each other from the start—who went into this with the best intentions—and then later, things changed. But we all know a lot of couples who get engaged for the wrong reasons, entering into this huge commitment already full of hesitation, reservations, and a whole lot of doubt. They just hope it will go away. They just think that somehow, actually tying the knot will fix all of their problems.
I have some potentially alarming news for those couples: cold feet are a myth. You shouldn’t really have that. By the time you actually marry someone, you should have come to terms with being with him forever, a long time before that. The wedding should just be a formality—a cherry on top of the cake that is the foundation of your relationship. Spending eternity with somebody shouldn’t be a hard pill to swallow. Yes, marriage is a commitment, but when you’re with the right person and you do the relationship the right way—take your time, get to know each other, go through some trials and tribulations before getting engaged—the legal commitment should feel like a piece of cake. So, if you are having a serious case of the cold feet—frozen feet, even—it could be because you got engaged for the wrong reasons. Here are signs you got engaged out of fear.
You don’t want to discuss the wedding
Usually, people should be happy to talk about their wedding, but not you. You forgot that it would be all wedding talk after you got engaged. When people ask you things like, “So, when’s the wedding?” or “Have you found a dress?” you feel dizzy and nauseous. You don’t want to discuss wedding planning. You want to change the subject.
