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It can happen: you wake up one day and realize that you emotionally outgrew your friends. Realizing this can be hard and scary. First off, who else are you supposed to hang out with? You may realize there are really only a handful of humans who you feel are on your emotional level, but you don’t have all of that history and shorthand with them that you do with those less-mature friends. You don’t have the memories and the stories. You don’t have that bond that only time can create. Second off, you feel guilty because you don’t want to abandon your friends. You feel like you see yourself as better than them if you distance yourself from them, and you don’t like to think of yourself that way. Looking down on people doesn’t feel good.

 

Look, your friends were good for you for a long time. You were friends for as many years as you were because, for a while, you were running on the same track as them, and moving at the same speed. You did learn some lessons side-by-side. You did do some growing together. But then maybe they…hit a wall. And you kept on going. Something curtailed their growth, but you just skyrocketed. You don’t want to leave your friends behind but you also don’t want to sabotage your own development by staying friends with them, all to be polite. And, perhaps the more you look at them, you realize that, if they had the choice, they wouldn’t pay you the same consideration. They are not polite people. The final issue with realizing you’ve outgrown your friends is that it’s a sign of aging, and nobody likes to see those signs. It shows you’re moving onto a new phase of life, and closing that chapter of youthful debauchery. None of it is easy to admit, but here are signs you’ve emotionally outgrown your friends.

 

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You see their problems as their fault

They used to vent about being fired, getting dumped, or having their roommate mad at them. You always saw things from their perspective and just their perspective. They were perfect, and everybody else sucked. Now, you can see how these friends bring these problems onto themselves through their behaviors.

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