Rough Patches Every Couple Goes Through
This is where the work comes in
This may be the first time a couple really experiences what it means to have to work at a relationship. You can both become…lazy. Or…too preoccupied with other things. And you stop thinking as much about doing things to boost the feeling of excitement and intimacy in the relationship. But, you do still want that feeling. This is when you learn that you will have to make notes to yourself, set alarms, and add calendar reminders to make sure you do that cute thing for your partner to bring the spark back. It takes a few goes—both of you doing it, back and forth—to really bring the spark back. But when you do, you remember how worth it it all is. And you get ready for a life of putting in that work. Or…perhaps if you realize it’s not worth it, then, well, you could just be with the wrong person.
