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It’s hard to believe that a friend would ever try to interfere with your wellbeing—she’s a friend. That’s the opposite of what a friend should do. But the truth is that human nature—our intentions, traumas, and motivations—is complicated. Any time someone takes an interest in you and tries to get close to you, there could be a lot at play. Perhaps you are just like this person, and they love that. You’re two peas in a pod. Or, maybe you’re the opposite of this person, and she’d like to be more like you. Or, maybe she’d like to make you more like her. You can quickly see how that latter scenario is either definitely good or definitely bad. Why do people try to change others? The reasons are endless. Their own insecurities. Their own twisted delusions of acquiring power. You never quite know why someone would do it, but here are signs that a friend is trying to keep you down.
When you’re negative, she agrees
You seem to get along the most when you are in a negative place. When you have bad things to say about the world, she’s right by your side, nodding enthusiastically. In fact, she tends to say the words “You get it” or “You get me” only when you’re commiserating about how awful things are.
