While it’s true that actions speak louder than words, sometimes people do tell you, in rather plain words, what their intentions are. You just aren’t listening. I let several men string me along in the past. I just focused on the few good things they did—I was living on bread crumbs really—as justification to stay in it, but I refused to acknowledge the gaping hole in their efforts. I let them convince me that I was high maintenance or too pushy if I simply asked where things were going. I was more focused on impressing them and keeping them happy than taking care of my own needs. The funny thing is that, they really did say things that made it clear they had no plan of making things official. If he says these things, he’ll string you along forever.
I like to live in the moment
And what exactly does living in the moment have to do with not committing to somebody? This is the line men say when you try to ask if they see a future with you or if they’d like to take a trip with you in a few months or where they see things going. They try to make you feel like you struggle to be present—but they’re just taking the focus off themselves.