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As much as we love our parents, they can have traits that we’re glad not to inherit. In fact, forming our own identity is often a combination of picking and choosing which of our parents values and beliefs we take with us, and which ones we leave behind. As you’re reading this, you can probably think of a few ways your parents behave that you hope to never replicate, and some characteristics that you find quite admirable. So, if you know that to be true, then perhaps it’s less of a surprise that, sometimes, the most progressive, feminist, respectful man can come from a father who is…not. That happened to a good friend of mine. She went to meet her long-term boyfriend’s family, so excited to finally get to know the humans who created the love of her life, and she found that his father has some, let’s just say, antiquated views on women. He’s since become her father-in-law, and she’s really struggled with that relationship because of his views. But she wants to get along with him, since the in-law relationship can be a good one. Here are some realities of having a misogynist father-in-law.


He gently sent her to the kitchen

When she first got to her soon-to-be in-law’s place, my friend sat down in the living room with her boyfriend, his dad, and brother, thinking they’d all shoot a breeze for a minute. Her boyfriend’s dad, however, clearly just wanted to talk to the boys. He entertained her brief comments, but looked confused by them, before eventually saying, “Why don’t you go help the girls out in the kitchen.”

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