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“I’m done being sweet” or “No more Mr. Nice guy” are things I’ve heard people say about their dating experiences. I’ve dated a few men who were cold and withholding, and I eventually realized it’s because they had been kind, thoughtful, and generous in a previous relationship, and got walked all over. So now I was left with the bitter shell of a person they’d become. Hey, I almost adapted such a mentality myself. I’m a nurturer, and I dated many men who took advantage of that, and left me feeling like the only way to be safe was to stop being so sweet. But you know what? That’s not right. We shouldn’t let cold people break us. To be loving and kind and nurturing is a strength—not a weakness. You just have to find someone who celebrates that and nurtures you back. And here’s a look at what it’s like being with a man who abuses versus celebrates your nurturing spirit.
Abuses: asks you to cancel plans for him
A man who will abuse your nurturing nature will ask you to cancel plans that you have without him—that you were looking forward to—in order to be with him. He may even tell you that you’re selfish for having girls’ night or going to the spa when he is saying he wants to spend time with you.
