I think we can all agree that cursing at your partner during an argument might not be the healthiest way to disagree. Still, we’re human and it happens. But how do things work when one of you has made a decision to no longer curse and the other one has not? That’s the case for Hollywood couple director and actor Salli Richardson Whitfield and her husband, fellow actor, Dondré Whitfield.
While the couple don’t curse during arguments, Dondré told on his wife saying that she has a potty mouth. Her language can be particularly triggering for him because he’s made a decision not to use foul language in the house.
See what he said about this differing dynamic in the transcript and video below.
Dondré: I am a Brooklyn dude. I am from the street. And my wife has a language that can activate me in a way where I have to really go, ‘Hey, this is trying to get you to go to ten. And you need to stay in control and be at 2 because that speech right there—if you’re speaking warrior language to a warrior, you gon get war. I don’t use foul language in the house anymore. I used to when we were first together. I don’t speak that way at all now. But I have to continue to lead even though— my wife still speaks that way to me in the house and it really—
Salli: I don’t say it at you. I’m not cursing you out. I want to be clear.
Dondré: So you’re not smoking at me but you’re still smoking next to me, knowing I’ve stopped smoking.
Salli: Well, you know. If I’m on the phone…
Dondré: Not even on the phone but talking to me like, ‘Mutha—“
Episode 4 of Season 3, Mountains & Molehills, of “Black Love” airs on OWN Saturday, August 31 at 9:00 p.m. ET/PT