When you do it, you feel your skin crawl. You know you have made a mistake. If there were a little devil and a little angel on either of your shoulders, much like in cartoons, pulling you to their side, you know that you went to the devil side. You chose status among strangers rather than time with a loved one. You chose money and luxury over a modest life, but with people who make you smile. You gave into the temptation that said “Feed your ego. You’re powerful and great and should keep climbing.” Meanwhile, your spouse is at home, eating the dinner he made for you, alone, because you bailed on him yet again. Does this sound familiar? And does it make you sad? It’s a delicate dance but, have you been putting work before your relationship too much lately?
Your date nights become office parties
You promise your partner it will just be you and him. You will have an intimate date night. But a colleague calls and says she is in the neighborhood. She asks if you want to grab a drink. You ask your partner if she can stop by just for a little bit. But, oh look at that, she has another colleague with her. Suddenly your intimate date night is a little office party in your apartment.