Signs Your Career Is Your Identity (And How To Fix That)
They say if you’re going to be successful in the pursuit of your dreams, you really have to live and breathe those dreams. You have to immerse yourself in the world that involves pursuing your goals—spending time constantly with like-minded individuals, consuming information 24/7, and pretty much always working. The trouble with that is that when someone does become successful in their goals, they can have been so caught up in that work for so long—so terrified of thinking about anything else for fear of being distracted—that they forget who they are at their core. We’re not our jobs. When you’re on your deathbed, you won’t wish that you’d worked more. Many, many hospice nurses have reported that the top thing people regret while dying is not having spent more time with loved ones. If this could ring true for you, maybe it’s time to face the fact that your job may be your whole life—your identity even—and how to fix that.
You get depressed on vacation
Even though you look forward to vacation, once it begins, you get…sad. You feel depressed. You even find yourself uncomfortable with your own thoughts—your brain feels like a scary place. That’s because you don’t know who you are when you aren’t working so you’re re-meeting yourself, from scratch, and that’s terrifying.