My partner and I have a pretty great relationship. We really don’t have any fights that are indicative of a fundamental issue. We don’t have trust issues. Neither of us is controlling. We’ve both healed ourselves from past wounds. We stand on pretty solid ground. But there is one thing that causes some pretty regular arguments, and it’s not something I can do much about: it’s my insomnia. Dating and being in a relationship as an insomniac isn’t easy. It would have been easier, honestly, if I’d fallen in love with a fellow insomniac. But instead I’m in love with a man who passes out around the same, decent hour each night. He is out the second his head hits the pillow. I don’t understand it. And he doesn’t understand me. If you’re an insomniac too, then you know it makes dating and relationships hard in these ways.
You can’t do those weekend brunches
When one of our friends plans an all-day extravaganza like brunch, then beach, then bar, I can hop on maybe during the beach part. Probably just the bar. I’m not getting up at 9am on a Sunday to go to brunch. So, my boyfriend has to go stag to the earlier social plans, which I know makes him a bit sad.