The very reason we are typically attracted to the people we love is that they possess some qualities that we don’t. The union feels supplementary and complementary—like a ying to a yang. But, just like they say that there are two sides to every coin, there are multiple sides to the qualities you may love in somebody. Sometimes, a trait that you typically admire can manifest itself in ways you don’t necessarily like. Differences are a good thing in a relationship but some differences can be hard to manage for a lifetime. When we meet someone, we may only think of how it feels to be with him now, but if you’re really considering a life-long partner, you should ask yourself, “Could I deal with this major difference forever? How will it affect us when it comes time to…buy a home or…have children?” Here are differences most couples can’t, or can, overcome.
When he doesn’t want kids
Meeting the man of your dreams only to realize he doesn’t want kids can be devastating if one of your other dreams has always been to be a mother. You’ve seen friends settle for men about whom they weren’t really crazy, all because they were father material. You don’t want to be one of them. You want to be with this person you’re over the moon about. But…he does not want to be a father.