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The years between, say, 15 and 25 might be some of the most tumultuous, confusing, emotional, and overwhelming years of our lives. There are several reasons for this including the fact that we lose our virginity during those years, learn to drive (and have our first couple of small accidents), apply to colleges/get rejected from colleges/go off to college, get our first jobs, have our first serious relationships, and learn to stand on our own two feet as adults. Woah. That’s quite a decade. But there is one other thing that is happening all along: you’re defining and redefining your relationship with your family. I’d say around our early teens is when we first learn that we won’t always get along with our families. Our late teens and early twenties is when we exorcise our right to separate ourselves from our families. And our mid twenties is when we reach some sort of equilibrium, and no longer feel that dealing with our families is a constant uphill battle. Here are realizations we all have about family—eventually.

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You can’t stay mad at them for long

You will feel, many times, that you couldn’t possibly forgive your family for something—that you couldn’t possibly move on from something they’ve done. And then, you will. It’s biological. You can’t stay mad at them forever. Plus, doing so is just exhausting because they aren’t going anywhere.

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