Love Or Lust? Signs It’s Just A Hormone-Driven Fling

April 23, 2019  |  
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In honor of Lover’s Day, we thought it may be a good time to help out those who are perhaps a little confused about their, err, “situation-ship.” It seems like, nowadays, that’s a lot of people since the way the younger generation does dating is a bit unconventional. Friend with benefits, boyfriend, booty call, boyfriend-just-when-he’s-in-town—these are terms we mostly understand. But what about a “Lover”? Traditionally speaking, a lover falls in a gray area between booty call and boyfriend. There certainly is all the excitement, chemistry, and sex that you have with the booty call, but you also feel that cosmic connection you feel around new love. And yet, things don’t really move at the same pace as a developing relationship. It’s more frantic. It’s rushed, but also very slow. You spend a lot of time together—you crave each other—but you rarely go out and meet each other’s friends. A lover’s fling is, to put it simply, a hormone-driven thing that doesn’t usually last long but sure is fun while it lasts. Here are signs you’re in a hormone-driven, Lover’s fling.


You don’t want him in your real world

You’d never want him to do something like stop by your work or possibly even your apartment. You want your interactions with him to exist in some realm that feels like it has nothing to do with your real life—it’s almost like your secret life. You just want to keep your trysts with him in his loft apartment, beach house, or whatever other secluded love nest he has.

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