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So your partner is dead set on eloping and you’ve always dreamed of having a wedding. When your partner—whom you love and want to spend your life with—announces that he doesn’t want a real wedding, it can feel like someone knocked the wind out of your sails. You can panic and feel like someone already stole your wedding, when it’s still just a conversation. And remember that—this is a conversation. Your marriage will belong to both of you and your wedding day should be designed by both of you. You’d also be amazed how often men say they don’t want a wedding, get coerced into having one, and then are SO grateful they did it. Yes, weddings can be expensive and their planning can take over your life, but many couples still go onto call them the happiest day of their lives. So this is a tricky predicament to be in. He wants to elope and you want a wedding. What do you do?
First, determine why
If you’re going to contemplate giving up a wedding you’ve always dreamed of, then he has to explain himself. Ask him why he doesn’t want a wedding or what he explicitly likes about eloping. Once you have your answer, you’ll have a little more leverage.
