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afraid to be happy in a relationship

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For some people, being happy in a relationship is actually the scariest thing of all. All the singles out there who are looking for happiness, in earnest and with much effort, would call those who find happiness but push it away spoiled and ungrateful. But, we shouldn’t be so quick to judge anyone. If you’ve spent years single and just got used to the searching (but not so much the finding) of “the one,” or you once thought you had someone and lost them in a terrible way (like being left at the altar or cheated on), then you might just feel safest, well, unhappy. It’s not like you’re miserable, per say, but you don’t ever reach that place of total ecstatic joy that someone gets from being in love, and committing to someone they love. You might feel the safest just beneath that level. Here are signs you’re afraid to be happy.


You let him down, but didn’t have to

You find yourself letting the person you’re dating down, when you really didn’t have to. You might, for example, agree to take on extra work at the office—even though your boss said you didn’t have to—and skipping your boyfriend’s very important event.

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