I had a small breakthrough in my relationship recently. Or, perhaps it was a personal breakthrough? I started being far more vocal about my health issues—particularly those that only pertain to women—around my partner. I used to try to hide things regarding my period or my birth control pills. I’d attended to these matters not only in private, but rather clandestinely. I’ve been with my guy for a long time, so the illusion that I’m perfect and have no biological function has gone out the window. But when it comes to particularly female health issues, I wouldn’t really bother him with the details. You know what? That’s over. I don’t think it’s good for men to remain in the dark about these things. Hey, we—the women—tend to things like birth control and pregnancy tests for the benefit of men. So, they can hear about it. Here are ways we keep men in the dark about women’s health issues.
I ask for pill reminders
My boyfriend got upset with me for forgetting to take my pill two days in a row. And then I got upset with him. I told him that it is on me and only me to take measures to prevent a pregnancy that would affect both of us. I also told him remembering to do something 363 days out of the year is pretty damned good. And I require him to now remind me to take my pill daily (even though I remember on my own.) I’d like to see how well he does at remembering the pill 365 days a year.