As a lesbian couple, you’ve likely already overcome so many challenges. You first needed to come out (something hopefully, one day, people won’t even need to do as the world grows more accepting of sexual fluidity). You had to come out to your family, friends, coworkers, and even just acquaintances. It may have felt like coming out took several years and each group of individuals reacted differently. You may have faced judgment and intolerance. And even once you decided to screw all that and love yourself, you had to face the gay dating world—that’s its own complex experience. But you did it. You found your person. You found your life partner, amidst all the challenges, and now you want to build your brood. Perhaps you already have. Just when you thought the challenges were over (at least pertaining to your sexuality) you have to face the questions of your child, his friends, and all the other parents regarding what it means to be a two-mom household. Here are some essential tips.
Be upfront to outsiders
Be honest with outsiders about your relationship. Do not pretend you are just friends or cousins who live together. Be proud of the fact that you are lesbian parents. How can your child be proud of you two if you hide who you are from the world? Show your kid there’s nothing to be ashamed of.