Having a male best friend—I mean really a best friend whom you talk to several times a day, hang out with weekly, tell all your secrets to, and even bring home for the holidays—can be a lot of fun. It can also create an interesting dynamic when you get into a serious relationship of the romantic kind with another man. If your male bestie is gay then, that shouldn’t affect your romantic relationships. But if you have a straight male best friend, the men you date can see that as a threat. And male best friends have a way of being a bit more intimidating to your boyfriends than your female besties do. If you’ve ever dated a man with a best friend of the opposite sex, then you know it affects things. It’s not always a good thing or a bad thing, but it changes things. Here is how your male best friend affects your relationship.
He’s a harsh critic
Your male best friend will probably be the harshest critic of the men you date, just as you are a harsh critic of the women he dates. Your female friends might make comments about the men you date, but your male best friend picks up on tons of little guy things—traits, habits, flaws—that your female friends just don’t.