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Saying, “I love you” for the first time can be exciting, heart-warming, and romantic…but sometimes it can cause a fight or even trigger a breakup. Sometimes it can prompt an awkward conversation about how everyone’s feelings are progressing (clearly at different rates). Your hope when you first tell someone you love him is that he’s been itching to say it to you, too. So when you say it, it’s just a relief for everybody and he can finally say it back. Sometimes, you feel like that is what is going on, and your feeling is right. But sometimes we just see and feel what we want to see and feel. Sometimes we project, and insert more meaning into moments than there really is. When you do tell someone “I love you” for the first time, you do it because you believe the feeling is reciprocated. But a lot of people don’t hear it back so…sometimes our intuition cannot be trusted. It’s already hard enough when that happens during a normal moment—and worse if it happens during these moments. Here are the absolutely wrong times to say, “I love you” for the first time.


During a breakup

If you’ve only been dating for a short amount of time, and a guy wants to call things quits, bursting out, “But I love you!” won’t really help matters then. It’ll just make you go out with no dignity left.

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