Ever since opening up to the world about husband Gregg’s Stage III colon cancer diagnosis, NeNe Leakes has been by his side during his harrowing battle.
However, months of treatment has left Gregg understandably temperamental lately, and his behavior when he feels that way isn’t always met with patience by NeNe. As she shared on Twitter on Thursday, trying to be a caregiver for someone can be incredibly frustrating at times. She wrote, “I would just think if I have or had cancer, I would see life so differently! Not being mean, grouchy and evil for no reason! But that’s me. Pray for me”
Her tweet was met with a whole host of reactions, including a lot of criticism from people who couldn’t understand why she would speak publicly, and not necessarily in a positive way, about her husband when he’s fighting for his life. But Leakes stood by what she said:
She stood by her feelings of exasperation and hurt so much that she even took to Gregg’s Instagram comments to tell him he needed to take heed of an inspirational message he shared that was sent to him by a friend:
And when another person scolded her and called her “heartless,” NeNe said, “You don’t know SH-T bout Gregg and NeNe Leakes and you have no idea what he has done! Ask him as hole [sic].”
But some of NeNe’s fans also encouraged her to try and not let Gregg’s temporary mood swings and behaviors during this rough time break her down:
While NeNe has an idea of how she thinks she might handle herself if she were going through Stage III cancer, it’s more complicated than she cares to admit right now.
For the record, in Gregg’s defense, cancer treatment can cause one to go through mental changes, particularly in mood. According to the National Comprehensive Cancer Network, cancer treatment and the disease as a whole can cause your immune system to release inflammatory cytokines. These proteins can cause an increase or decrease in the inflammation linked to things like anxiety, depression and fatigue. Because of that, it’s not uncommon for patients to feel down, become irritable, lose their sense of motivation, to suddenly cry or be angry, be hopeless, and at times, even suicidal — among many other things.
According to the NCCN, mood changes for some can be altered with the help and support of loved ones. But when that doesn’t work and things are ongoing and much more serious, there is also the option to try certain medications meant to curb anxiety and depression, as well as therapy as an alternative, particularly psychotherapy and couples therapy.
This isn’t the first time though that NeNe has made mention of Gregg suffering with mood swings, or a “roller coaster of feelings” as she put it. But she’s tried to rely on her faith to be the kind of support he needs and to keep both herself and her relationship in tact.
“My marriage changed tremendously!” she wrote on Instagram in October when speaking about life after the diagnosis. “The way [I] look at people around me and my approach for my family future. With all this change happening, I’ve felt lost and alone not to mention the roller coaster of feelings my hubby Gregg has had! He’s Definitely felt isolated from the rest of the world, mad, sad, depressed and left with asking why me! BUT GOD…”