Surprising Consequences Of An Open Marriage
If you speak to a couple who is just embarking on the whole open marriage lifestyle, they’ll probably sound like they have everything under control. They’ve got this thing in the bag. They have their rules. They have their parameters. They really feel that they can predict and control how this all goes down. Here’s the thing: sex and love are two of the hardest things in the world to control. Emotions don’t care about your rules. Sex doesn’t care about your parameters. You can rarely tell your heart, body, or mind what to do which is exactly what you’d have to do to control how an open marriage affects your, well, marriage. That’s why many couples who try an open marriage wind up simply getting a divorce, or find themselves feeling completely emotionally battered and confused. To think anyone has any control over this type of lifestyle is to be quite naïve. Here are the unexpected consequences of an open marriage.
Not all parties want it
You may go to a new person you want to sleep with so excited to share the news, “Hey, we can have sex and my spouse is cool with it!” But that individual probably didn’t hope to just be an accessory to the sex game you’re playing with your spouse. That person probably wanted a real relationship. It’s harder to get outsiders involved than you may think.