How Rich Friends Can Be A Bit Out Of Touch
Money has a way of dividing people, even if those people try really, really hard to make sure that money doesn’t change them. The thing is that, no matter how down to earth somebody is, having a lot of money allows for little incremental lifestyle changes. Over time, those add up and, they’re just not in the same headspace as their less wealthy friends. Even if someone with money isn’t the type to purchase a private plane or a private island, they will probably…purchase rather than lease a car and…buy a house rather than rent an apartment. These are not luxurious lifestyle changes, but they are just different than what less-wealthy individuals experience. I’m reaching that age when some of my friends are becoming quite wealthy and I can already see in our conversations and interactions how it’s changed them a bit. Here is how your rich friends can be a bit out of touch.
Asking where the housekeeper is
I’ve had a friend ask who cleans my house, or when the housekeeper is next coming over. Uh…she’s already here because I’m the housekeeper. But wealthy people presume everyone hires someone else to clean their home.
Wondering why you don’t travel more
One friend asked why I don’t travel more, and then she tried to sell me on the joys of travel. Did she really think I didn’t know about those? She thought I didn’t travel by choice. It didn’t cross her mind that it’s because traveling is expensive.
Assuming you can take time off, any time
Some of my wealthy friends will text me on a Monday and say, “Want to go to Palm Springs Thursday through Sunday?” Um…I have to, like, work. When I tell them that say they, “Ooooh, right” as if they forgot about the Monday to Friday work schedule. Or the fact that some people don’t get to take time off whenever they want.
Wondering why I don’t buy new
The fact that I scroll through Craigslist for furniture or kitchen appliances is confusing to my wealthy friends. “Macy’s carries those, you know.” Yes, I do know. But on Craigslist, this blender is, like, $4 and I need to save money when I’m living paycheck to paycheck.
Paying, without asking the price
When making plans with friends, I’ve told them about tickets to an event or a cute hotel I’ve found and they just say, “Cool book it and just send me a Venmo request.” They don’t ask the price!
Inviting you somewhere far away
Rich people always want the whole crew to go to Costa Rica for a week for their birthday. I can’t afford to blow my only vacation for the year on someone else’s birthday party. But when you’re rich and travel all of the time, you don’t think about it that way.
Your big night out is their cheap night
For me, eating at a chain restaurant and going to the movies is treating myself. To my rich friends, that’s a frugal, casual, no-big-deal night—the kind of thing they do when they have nothing better to do.
Saying, “Let’s just get table service”
There is nothing “just” about getting table service. But to my wealthy friends who don’t want to wait in line at the club, fight for a seat, or stand at the bar to order drinks, it’s no thing to “just” drop $600 on table service.
Delaying buying plane tickets
My wealthy friends don’t understand how imperative it is to plan way in advance with me if they want me to fly somewhere. We can’t just “See how things are looking the week of.” I can’t afford plane tickets the week of.
Canceling on you, but you took time off work
Unfortunately, some of my friends who don’t have to work or who have a company that runs on autopilot now have cancelled on me for dumb reasons like, having a headache. They don’t know that I requested time off work for our plans, and now I’m losing money for nothing.
Being “tired from traveling”
This is a concept only understood by the wealthy. My wealthy friends have turned down lunch invitations because they, “Just got back from Europe a week ago and are still very tired.”
Believing your good neighborhood is bad
I actually live in one of the most desirable affordable neighborhoods. It is basically suburbia, and is clean, pretty, and safe. But my wealthy friends only see a handful of neighborhoods as viable living options—and those tend to be the neighborhoods with five-acre properties and 24-hour security personnel.
Having no clue what a Lyft line is
I’ve said, “Sorry I’m late—my Lyft line made a lot of stops” to wealthy friends. They had so many questions. How does Lyft work again? What is a Lyft Line? Oh…well why would you take one of those? You ride with strangers?
Asking why you didn’t valet
If I’m late due to looking for a parking spot, my wealthy friends say, “This place has valet, you know.” Yes, I know. I also know the valet will cost $15 after tip and I only put aside $40 to enjoy this entire evening. I wasn’t blowing nearly half of that on parking.
Never rushing for happy hour
It’s hard to convince my wealthy friends to rush so we can get the happy hour prices, the early bird special, or the matinee movie tickets. They’d always rather move at their own pace and pay the higher price.