Relationship Imbalance: Do You Carry Most Of The Weight?

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A relationship should be an equal partnership, but things aren’t always as they should be. Perhaps because we evolved to be sensitive to the cries of a baby, women can also be too attentive to the demands of an immature man. I see a lot of women in relationships that resemble that of mom and toddler more than that of romantic partners sometimes. It can happen when your partner begins to take you for granted—to believe you’d never go anywhere, and that he doesn’t need to pay as much attention/be as alert. What happens? He dumps the burden on you. When you’re a couple, you’re in a way running a small business together. What you do affects the other. You represent each other. But sometimes you may find that you’re the only one thinking about the whole, and your partner is just thinking about himself. Here are signs you carry most of the weight in your relationship.

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His emotions trump yours

If you’ve both had a terrible day, you’ll spend the evening tending to his emotional breakdown. His wins, every time. You usually have to lick his wounds for him, and then—only when he’s better—go somewhere alone and lick your own.

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